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I keep seeing the same argument over and over and OVER again in which antis equate use of the "Underage" tag in AO3 with the author of the fic being a pedophile and/or the fic itself being child pornography or "glorifying pedophilia." So let's unpack exactly what pedophilia is, and what the "Underage" tag is used for. CSA survivors, this will be uncomfortable for you. It might even be triggering. Please don't read this unless you're in a good emotional space to deal with this sort of discussion, because I don't want you to get hurt.
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By the way, since I know some of the younger folks are going to be curious: I am in my mid-30s as of the writing of this post. I am attracted to people about age 25 and older. I don't want to ever have more than a platonic friendship or mentor/student relationship with ANY teenager at my age, because they are literally half my age or younger.
The way I look at a 16-year-old is about the way a 16-year-old looks at an 8-year-old: "I remember what it was like to be your age. I'm happy to be your friend and help you grow and learn, but I'd rather date literally anybody else than you because you are Just Too Young." The closest I come to acknowledging attractiveness in teens is "Man, when I was a teenager I would have found that really hot." Because yeah, I know what teen me was into, and I'm not into that age group anymore. For me, an underage teen is about as "sexy" as a potato. Are they well-groomed? Do they have nice hair? Do they have a pleasant appearance? Sure. Are they something that I personally find sexy? No, I find that teenager to be a Child, and children aren't sexy.
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By the way, since I know some of the younger folks are going to be curious: I am in my mid-30s as of the writing of this post. I am attracted to people about age 25 and older. I don't want to ever have more than a platonic friendship or mentor/student relationship with ANY teenager at my age, because they are literally half my age or younger.
The way I look at a 16-year-old is about the way a 16-year-old looks at an 8-year-old: "I remember what it was like to be your age. I'm happy to be your friend and help you grow and learn, but I'd rather date literally anybody else than you because you are Just Too Young." The closest I come to acknowledging attractiveness in teens is "Man, when I was a teenager I would have found that really hot." Because yeah, I know what teen me was into, and I'm not into that age group anymore. For me, an underage teen is about as "sexy" as a potato. Are they well-groomed? Do they have nice hair? Do they have a pleasant appearance? Sure. Are they something that I personally find sexy? No, I find that teenager to be a Child, and children aren't sexy.
